A few different people have said some version of the same thing to me lately: I’m tired of being resilient. They are not tired of working hard, nor are they unwilling to deal with difficult things. They are tired of always being the person who can handle it, the one everyone calls when something goes wrong, who covers the shift, takes care of the family, keeps the business running, listens to everyone else’s problems and, somehow, finds another solution. These are often the same people who...

Lately, I have been irritated. Not in any dramatic way, and not really at any one person. More by a pattern I seem to notice every year around this time, when summer starts to loosen its grip on Tahoe and the town begins its annual shift toward winter. The local Facebook groups fill up with new arrivals. People are looking for housing, jobs, community, opportunity. Some of them are also arriving with plans to start businesses, often businesses that already exist here in one form or another....

I just finished a really powerful book. Mary Cain’s memoir, This Is Not About Running, and what stayed with me after finishing was not simply the story of one athlete inside one notoriously dysfunctional system, it was how recognizable the structure of that system felt, even to someone whose own experience was very different. Mary was running for Nike from roughly 2012 to 2017, long enough after I had finished high school and college sports (1995-2006ish), and I was never sexually or...